Friday, July 21, 2006
Lum we understand how u feel and we know that u will not be beaten down and will be smarter and stronger after this adversity.
i think u should not take the words 'jia lat' too harshly coz if u are jia lat then we are no better. We can certainly testify that u are the more responsible and able person in our clique. U are called jia lat bcoz u failed to live up to the high expectation that your boss have in u and not bcoz u r jia lat as a person. One can only be jialat if he doesn't show improvement despite low expectation and constant reminders. I believe that ur boss said these in the heat of the moment bcoz he view u in high regards. So let these words be a source of motivation for u to reach his lofty high standards, where u will bcome a better person.
Firstly lum i think u do not seek enough help and u make urself carry too much burdens. As ur boss is a prof to him this project seems easy but to the rest of us it may not be and so u need as much help as possible. u have a virtue of taking the load urself and not wanting to burden others but sometimes it is not the best way. If u have to ask for help u have to, by hook or by crook if it means to get the job done. Human's knowledge is limited so we sometimes need the expertise of others, I know u will want to learn and then u can finish the job but time may not permit u to. Steve jobs, CEO of Apple has no knowledge of technology or engineering, but he seek the best engineers to follow his lead and vision to put out something like the i-pod. So Lum u have to trust able people to take some load off u, like in clique activities if someone is already doing it or u want to ask who is free to do part of it, or at work for ur project.Be proactive in seeking leverage to give u more time and effort for more important stuff. Lastly u have to first concern with urself the things that are important and affect u directly, then u can care for others. Not say selfish but take care of one's well being before others. never heard of the weak helping the strong rite.
Another thing is u need to learn how to say no to urself. If work or family does not permit u to spend time with us we all will understand. This applies to everyone. We have to trust one another to make an effort when we can from our work/studies/gf. Example, depending on how important the outing is i will say no if i need to revise for the week/time with gf for the week/ work for the week. But effort can be made like asking out for lunch, planning soccer matches, planning dinner or movies once or twice a week or when time permits. Even if it's very busy a simple phonecall or blog entry suffice, in the end everyone has the ability to judge and appreciate the effort and sincerity of a friend. So lum hope u noe what i mean that dun need to participate in everything , most of us now have more free time coz we r really more in holiday mood.
So dun be demoralised, im sure u will slowly prove ur worth to ur boss.
Qin
i think u should not take the words 'jia lat' too harshly coz if u are jia lat then we are no better. We can certainly testify that u are the more responsible and able person in our clique. U are called jia lat bcoz u failed to live up to the high expectation that your boss have in u and not bcoz u r jia lat as a person. One can only be jialat if he doesn't show improvement despite low expectation and constant reminders. I believe that ur boss said these in the heat of the moment bcoz he view u in high regards. So let these words be a source of motivation for u to reach his lofty high standards, where u will bcome a better person.
Firstly lum i think u do not seek enough help and u make urself carry too much burdens. As ur boss is a prof to him this project seems easy but to the rest of us it may not be and so u need as much help as possible. u have a virtue of taking the load urself and not wanting to burden others but sometimes it is not the best way. If u have to ask for help u have to, by hook or by crook if it means to get the job done. Human's knowledge is limited so we sometimes need the expertise of others, I know u will want to learn and then u can finish the job but time may not permit u to. Steve jobs, CEO of Apple has no knowledge of technology or engineering, but he seek the best engineers to follow his lead and vision to put out something like the i-pod. So Lum u have to trust able people to take some load off u, like in clique activities if someone is already doing it or u want to ask who is free to do part of it, or at work for ur project.Be proactive in seeking leverage to give u more time and effort for more important stuff. Lastly u have to first concern with urself the things that are important and affect u directly, then u can care for others. Not say selfish but take care of one's well being before others. never heard of the weak helping the strong rite.
Another thing is u need to learn how to say no to urself. If work or family does not permit u to spend time with us we all will understand. This applies to everyone. We have to trust one another to make an effort when we can from our work/studies/gf. Example, depending on how important the outing is i will say no if i need to revise for the week/time with gf for the week/ work for the week. But effort can be made like asking out for lunch, planning soccer matches, planning dinner or movies once or twice a week or when time permits. Even if it's very busy a simple phonecall or blog entry suffice, in the end everyone has the ability to judge and appreciate the effort and sincerity of a friend. So lum hope u noe what i mean that dun need to participate in everything , most of us now have more free time coz we r really more in holiday mood.
So dun be demoralised, im sure u will slowly prove ur worth to ur boss.
Qin
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