East.Side.Back.Street

Seto, I understand what you mean… I guess it is just the shit Marists attitude of being late… Difficult to change, but all of us have to make a conscious effort. I used to be damn punctual until I realise there I’m most of the time stupidly arrive the first and end up waiting damn long. Hence, nowadays I try to factor in the “Marists” late factor, but still I think I reach early most of the time.

Anyway, as friends, you just have to trust that everyone has been making their best efforts in finding out more about each other’s of our life, constant reminders like your post would also help. It would be best if anyone at any point of time, feels that we are drifting apart, remind all of us to put in effort.
I have to admit that I’m not exactly making the best effort too. I’m a rather lazy and a bit of self-centred person, once achieve a certain status quo which I deemed fit, I tend to shy away and become lazy in making effort. Just ask Fiona… I have recently been too lazy to coax her and go the extra mile to make her happy, something which I have to change, because she don’t deserved this as she is very important to me.

The same is happening here on how I’m treating you guys or maybe how we are treating each other nowadays. Perhaps we have been all too comfortable with each other and knowing that we can rely and fall back to each other in difficult times, this makes us take for granted and we have stop asking each other “how’s life?” except for the time that we actually meet up. We should try to change things la.

But I think the truth is that, it is very difficult for us to go back to what we once were. We have to face it. 1 day got 24 hrs. With more work, gf and sch and etc coming in, no way we can spend the same amount of time and effort into our friendship. Just like anything in the world. Everything will have to reach its peak and stay there for a while or it may even go down. But the idea here is to ensure that it doesn’t go down to beyond that threshold level of “Good friends” or even worse, “Friends”.

With regards to unresolved issues, yes, I think we have a couple. In my opinion, there are still certain standing issues between the two UK pple since I last heard, or maybe things has already improved la. See, this is an example of not making effort in finding out about each other’s life. Maybe there might be certain issues about me too, I dunno. If there are, please let me know directly. I think we are all matured and known each other long enough. If in any point of time anyone buay song each other, I think the best is to tell the person directly and not put it off just because you are afraid of antagonising the other person. But one thing we have to remember is that each of us have different priorities in life and what you think is right may not be what another person think is right. With this in mind, even if two person have varying extremist beliefs, “cold wars” should not ever happen again.

Anyway, as for heart to heart talks, I agree totally. So when is the next all guys nights out aka drinking nights out again?

Here is the list of participation points, applies to pple in Singapore (which I still can remember):

Songjie: St James May 5th
Me: Brew-works on April 30th
Seto: Dinner on May 1st
Lam: Cannot remember la, but I think you chalked up enough points liao la
Qin: That time at the Mount Faber there during Lam’s and Youyi’s B-day
Youyi: IF anyone can remember, please help me fill this in…. hahaha (ok la, can count Jacq’s birthday surprise if you really want to la)

So you all agar agar yourselves la.

Terence